I don't use friend loosely and I don't use love loosely by any means ... Ask someone !
When I lose a friend it's pretty devastating . The first friend who walked out of my life happened my 2nd year of college. I can't tell you why or if I did anything but at one moment we were friends and the next day we were nothing . There were some happy birthday texts in between but they were mainly me trying to patch things together which never happened.
A lot of y'all know my friend Creep. Creep and I went through about 2 1/2 years of hard times which thankfully ended in me calling a mutual friend getting her number and crying on the phone for about an hour .
Most recently I have friends I use to be close to like see every day or talk on the phone every day .We live in the same town and I haven't seen them in like 4-6 months . It's a little depressing .
I realized that I was doing a little more reaching out than they did. So when I decided to take a step back I realized that my relationships were Me driven. That's never a good feelings. Then you have to give in count of the ones who get married and have children. Once someone pops out a kid it ALL changes. But is that my fault for being a 27 year old with no child? So interactions with me are even slimmer? Uh I don't know..
Oh don't make me mention "friends who only want to see you at birthday celebrations, and bars." I haven't been to the bar in a year. Is this what adulthood looks like?
Did I mention that my 3 top friends in LIFE live in TX. Like WTH!
Okay I guess I just needed to vent. I am not down with change. I am not down with giving and not receiving anything. I am also not down with friends who get married or get in a relationship and forget an entire flock of friends. YUP
Its my blog ill whine if I want to.
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