The straight struggle

I woke up in the wonderful city of Metarie, La. ( 9.16.16) The first thing I did was grab my phone and  check to see what happened over night. BallerAlert had a clap back  post regarding Marc Jacobs NYFW. In this show his models wore dreads. According to the readers there were a lot of Caucasians featured wearing  this hairstyle.



The topic of appropriation has come up recently a lot in the media. I don't really hear it so much in the community that I live in, but that doesn't mean that it isn't worth speaking on.  

I'm only 28. There was a lot of things that were decided, accomplished, and changed before I even entered the world. I no doubt believe that I have been sheltered from a lot of things and people.

Please keep in mind.
I can only represent myself. 
Respect that I have opinions that may vary from your own.

The first time I knew there was a difference in black girls and in white girls hair techniques was around the 2nd grade. I was on a school bus heading out on a field trip. One of my classmates, L, had pigtails. I'm not sure why this stood out to me but I told her if she had a third pony tail our hair would like. L said, " I'm not Black"  And I told her okay and.... The look on her face changed and she changed the subject.

That moment always stood out in my mind.
Because I'm black we can't have the same hairstyles?


Fast forward to about ehhhh 2 years ago.

I kept hearing this term, appropriation. I had  no idea what it meant   Then I watched Amandla Sternberg's  Don't Cash Crop my Cornrows , different articles, YouTube reactions etc. that followed.

I wear my hair natural. Meaning that I wear it in its natural state. I try to minimize heat and harmful products.  There are a lot of people who think that natural hair is unprofessional. They believe that   your hair has to be in a certain way to gain respect from others.

Clearly that is a lie.

A lot of people think straight hair is beautiful.  I struggle with that thought myself.  I straighten my hair when I want to feel pretty. So I associate straight hair with being pretty.  WHERE on earth did I get that? Because my hair has always been curly. There's been texture to my hair that took a process to be straighten.

The Kardashian/ Jenner's get a lot of flack for appropriating black culture period. I've said it before, I enjoy watching them because I feel like I am watching apart of my family. I think that's why I like them so much because they give me a sense of familiarity.  I don't think about them being half Caucasian  and half Armenian. I see that their friends look like my friends, they party, they have families,they fight, they struggle with depression, anxiousness, weight problems,  clothing struggles, vacations, etc.

 The only problem that I have is that women of black culture aren't allowed to wear and be who they are because others feel that isn't appropriate. But others of another race can do the same thing  and its " high fashion" or a new trend.

 Culture Vultures are a real!

If there wasn't a gap  in acceptance and understanding  I don't think there would be a problem.

I personally think there is appropriation across all cultures. Especially in America. We are truly a melting pot.  When you think about wigs, weaves, hair dye, tanning, waxing, brows, butt injections, implants, etc.  All of these things represent a particular culture and now women pick and choose what they want to look like. There's not one person who is born with thick thighs, a small waist, jet black straight hair, with light eyes, and plump lips These are all different types of heritages copied and pasted.

I think acceptance of people no matter who they are should be recognized and appreciated.


This is who I am...

When I was younger I hated my middle name. Just the sound of it was just country and old sounding. My mom actually gave me her middle name. As I got older I realized I lucked up. My name really goes well together and there's not a lot of Mae's in my generation so that's pretty cool.

So here I am at a random lot in my city taking a picture with a train car with my name on it!



Making friends as an adult


I ran across this article on Refiner 29 ( LOVE YALL!) and I wanted to share it with y'all.

How to make friends as an adult.

Tell me what you think!

3J's Baby Shower


My good friend Latoya had a baby boy in the 3rd week of September.  But before she actually gave birth we celebrated his upcoming arrival. Latoya's Beau, Justin,  is in love with RL Polo so the shower was Polo themed. I don't have enough pictures to show y'all how amazing the decoration swere! omg. Latoya's mom is a creative genius. When we were younger I remember going over to her house and watching her mom sew and make different things for parties. She really outdid herself this time. Sorry that my picture game was off . 



I brought CyCy along with me. She's never been to a baby shower. She loved it. She even won a gift card to Chili's!

Welcome 3J!

Presents: Just because: JKAW


As y'all know I love the entire present process. I love shopping, packaging, and giving presents. But I especially love receiving presents.
My Jasmine got me a really sweet present, that made my day. I really don't know what I did to deserve such great friends.





Y'all see that bag?!!!!!!!! IT HAS A GOLD CHAIN !

Book Review +Year of Yes+ Shonda Rhimes


I rented this book on tape from my local library. It has 3 disks roughly 8 hours of audio.
I loved this book from beginning to end.

 When I was a kid I did a lot of reading and AOL chatting. I feel like I have a vivid imagination that flowed over into adulthood. A lot of times I find myself imagining in great detail what someone is like before I meet them. Who am I kidding I do this with strangers who walk around in Target.

Shonda Rhimes has been one of those people I've wondered about. There were just a few things I knew about her and she really sparked my interest. I mean she's is  the creator of my Thursday nights from Sept- May. There are not many people who can get my attention  for such a long time. 

While listening to Year of Yes I  felt connected to her. It kind of reminded me of myself.

I appreciated the sharing of her ups and downs from  college,  love life, career, and why she wanted to be a single parent.

Then to top it off ! Shonda talked a whole lot about he character, Christina Yang, from Grey's Anatomy. I LOVE YANG .

Even if you don't want to hear about Shonda (which you should) just read this book to hear all the Grey's talk.

Buy this book !
It's something I feel like I am going to keep on my shelf and read every year. ( Yes I bought it after I rented my BOT)

AMN2 Rating

CyCy's first day of 5th grade


The first  day of school was August 12. And as you can see from the first picture that morning was a little bit of a struggle. Dear God 10 year olds pack some major attitude. 





But by the time we got home we were happy and more than willing to take a picture.

Amy Poehler + Yes Please+ Book Review

I rented this book on tape from my local library. It has 7 discs roughly 10 hours of audio.







I am notorious for judging a book by its cover.  I actually bought this book when it was released at Target. I didnt know much about Amy Poehler. Only that she was on SNL, and Tina Feys BFF. But I thought that would be enough. The night after I purchased it I read a couple chapters, then I put it in a drawer where it is currently sitting. 

About a month ago I was on my local library website trolling for some BOT ( Books on tape) and I came across it and decided, HEY, I'm going to finish this book. After a month and 3 weeks I finally finished it.

I did not like this book. 
And in all fairness  I just did not feel connected to her in any way shape or form . Only a few of her jokes/ punchlines made me laugh. A small few. 

4 things that I liked about this book. 
One: I liked all the different friends and family she had sit in on the readings. Those portions were entertaining.
Two: LAX lost and found Sharika finding her laptop and the graciousness/ thankfulness she shown her.
Three: the reading of her book at the Upright Citizens Briagade Theatre. 
Four: Amy's work in Haiti


AMN2 Rating
2.3/5


OK: 2016: Natural Falls State Park


Pinterest has become a serious pre-travel addiction of mine.

 I've heard that Oklahoma was beautiful, but I really needed to see it for myself. I am not one of those girls who are afraid to get muddy, sweaty, or climb. However lets been realistic, I am a asthmatic so I have to limit some stuff. 

Natural Springs is about an hour away from Tulsa. When you pull into the little cabin like office you can get a day pass for $5.00, the attendant gives you a map and instructions where you can park to go to the spring. There's picnic tables, and a beautiful walkway that  is photography friendly.











































Even though it is out of the norm for JMN, he enjoyed it. 

SUCCESS!